Love and Coaching: Childish and Adult Love
April 15, 2015
Love, as a service, is present in the way we perform our coaching profession. Must be distinguished from the perspective of the coach, when our commitment and dedication to what the client requires, makes the client feel bigger and empowered, and when the client feels shrunk and creating a form of dependence. In turn, the client presents in his way of being, an emotional world where the way to love and commit to what matter most to him/her, defines an emotional context that is the basis to build success in what he/she aims to achieve.
We all know in our practice “adults who live themselves as children.” It is essential that the coach always keep in mind that thereare “adults who behave as children” and not “children appearing to be adults.” What are the ways of loving and getting committed that we have as adults? When that love is enhancing happiness? When is it limiting or is going against life? What should you consider as a coach in the coaching relationship to empower your client?
Competences included in this reflection are:
– Establishing trust and intimacy: it is essential that the coach should observe the client as independent, responsible and able to take his/her own life beyond the challenges that are present. It is also required that the coach should distinguish when he/she can not see the client as able or enough to confront what is happening in his/her life and to stop the conversation or open the issue with the client.
– Presence: Through being present to a powerful coaching relationship, the coach can acknowledge the possibility that is to himself /herself and for others. That´s why they will never give advice or think that is something better to be done by the client than what the client imagines and brings to the conversation.
– Active Listening: being prepared to listen to what empowers and what limits the client. Also acknowledge the personal limits of the coach when they try to “help” the client.
– Creating awareness: How is working the emotional world of the client when makes a choice? Is the client oriented to make choices to be nice to the coach or to some persons in his/her life? How does the client relate to learning? Is the client openfor disagreeing with the coach and showing it and generating a conversation? Is the client open to recognizing “from where” says what it says? Is the coach aware of the difference in the emotions of an adult that behaves like a child and the ones of a mature adult? Can the client and the coach acknowledge a way of being in the coaching relationship and how this is a mirror of another kind of relationship of their lives?
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MARCO LEONE, MCC
LIC. IN PSYCHOLOGY Universidad Nacional de Córdoba.
ONTOLOGICAL COACH ICP (Instituto de Capacitación Profesional Bs.As.
1998 . ACTP/2011
EXPERT IN PSYCHOGRAFOLOGY
Instituto de Estudios Psicografológicos, Córdoba, Argentina
GYM INSTRUCTOR
Comprehensive Physical Education Center
DIRECTOR OF APC,ARGENTINA (Training for Change)
Director and Trainer of Professional Coaches in APC Argentina from 2001 to present. Consultant.
Coach in Transformational Leadership´s Program from 1998 to the present.
FAMILY AND ORGANIZATIONAL CONSTELLATOR (Recognized by Bert Hellinger Center Argentina, Buenos Aires)
SENIOR COACH of RCyC Consultants (BsAs) working for organizations in teamwork and cultural change (1999 to the present) in Argentina, Chile, Paraguay, Uruguay, Brasil. Some of the clients are: Kellog Argentina, Colgate Palmolive Latinoamérica, Clorox, Granwich, Tizado, Mc Donald Argentina, etc.
THERAPIST IN E.M.D.R (USA – 2001)
FOUNDER MEMBER OF THE Asociación Argentina de Profesionales del Coaching (AAPC)
MASTER COACH of the Asociación Argentina de Profesionales del Coaching (2010)
FOUNDER ASSOCIATE OF TH ICF ARGENTINA´S CHAPTER